Just go out an talk to girls. Seriously.
I have helped you create the confidence that is necessary to overcome a fear of approaching girls as well as learning how to deal with rejection.
It is time that you take your fates into your own palms. There is no secret to becoming good with females. It is constant practice. Even when you think you’ve figured it out, a month out of the game and you’re rustier than a ship on the bottom of the sea.
It’s time to build your own life experience and jump into the deep end. You see an attractive girl that walked past you, run up and start talking to her (When you run up, make sure you run up quickly enough so that you face her, never approach from behind her. Let her see your coming).
She may ignore you, she may dismiss you, or she may find your balls to be inspiring. Either way you shouldn’t care because her words and opinions have no bearing on you. You’re the commander in chief of your own world.
You may develop a fright and promise yourself that you will talk to the next one. Nay. Talk to the one that made you hesitant. Overcome your fear. Relish in it.
You will get rejected. But you will learn. You will have easy victories. Go for harder challenges.
Tomorrow I’ll post up some resources that will help you on your path.
A mistake that many youngin’s make is that they change their behavior when they start talking to attractive girls.
They give them more attention, they begin to enthusiastically nod their heads, and goofy grins abound. When talking to unattractive girls, this does not happen.
Girls that are attractive know this and are not amused. This is why a disinterested fellow becomes so much more intriguing.
She becomes quite distraught. Everyone else is treating her as a princess bee, but not this guy.
This is what happens:
Today’s mission is to get you to understand how you behave in front of unattractive girls, become concious of it and incorporate it to all girls you talk to.
Secret: Girl’s enjoy a chase as much as men. Give it to them. Make them work for their dinner. Make them question whether or not she actually has something worthwhile to offer.
She will thank you.
I want you to go to a place where people congregate with the hopes of meeting people and talk to the 6 most unattractive girls. This should be easy because if she’s in a group, her attractive friends will step out, believing that finally their ugly friend’s personality has shone through.
I want you to talk to them as if you were trying to pick them up. I want you to have in your mind the goal of getting her number.
While doing this, observe how your body is positioned. Memorize the feelings you are developing, disinterest, amusement, etc.
She may or may not be excited by your conversation. Some ugly girls know what they are and are defensive. Keep on treking.
*No beauty is not in the beholder. Sorry.*
There really aren’t that many “secrets” to building attraction with females. The best you can do is put your best persona forward and utilize techniques that build attraction. It is important to remember that there are other factors that may make or break your ability to get her back to the crib.
Sometimes girls just aren’t feeling it.
You may not be her type.
Her friends are being terrible friends by not allowing her to be alone with you.
However there is one overarching truth to everything in life. We all want someone to pay attention to us. Enter the ADD method.
The ADD method is exactly what it sounds. You are paying attention to a girl and all of a sudden something shiny takes your focus away from her. This works particularly well if you have been holding strong eye contact and giving off vibes of “caring about her life.” Then boom.
You stare throughout the room. She begins to fight for your attention. Attraction. Keep it up.
Let’s practice your ability to pay attention and then get distracted.
I want you to have at least 6 conversations today with someone. It doesn’t matter who, when, or where and be very engaged. Then at a moment, at the height of the other person’s spiel, just look away and keep your eyes focused off them. You will feel when the other person is feeling odd because their voice will begin to drop off.
Once that happens, turn back, smile, and ask a question that is irrelevant to the conversation. Topic change.
Pay attention to what they’re saying while you are not looking at them. Bring up something they said that interests you later on in the conversation. It will surprise them for they thought you weren’t paying attention. Powerful stuff.
The last two days you were busy opening your mouth to random females on the street. Granted it was an easy mission, remember that baby steps are crucial at this juncture of your life.
If you do not talk to strangers than you must rely on only your social circle for getting nookie. Free yourself of such constrictions.
I will not lie to you. At the end of this program you will not be a “playa” or Rubirosa. What you will be is have been conditioned to feel comfortable in the world and in your own costume.
Do not fret I will give you tips at the end and resources.
Today you have another simple mission. I want you to go up to as many girls as you feel comfortable and ask them if they speak “English.”
Pretend as if you are a foreigner in a foreign land and you are searching for an English speaker. When the girl no doubt will say yes, keep the act up.
“OMG, I’m so happy to run into an English speaker, I haven’t been able to understand anything.”
Keep the ruse up until you can feel that she is getting bored. Then you can excuse yourself or keep talking to her.
If she doesn’t appreciate the “role-play” then simply bounce.
The goal here is to present an odd situation or even have her think you’re “odd” and see how long you can keep it up.
Today you begin your journey to learn how to talk to girls on the street.
Very simple mission for today and tomorrow. I know that some of you have never talked to a girl randomly on the street. I know that it a level of courage to walk up to someone you find attractive and make your mouth work.
Simmer down. Baby steps.
I want you to go up to a minimum of 40 females that you find attractive and ask them for the time.
It’s up to you how you approach them and how you get their attention. All you want is to know the time.
Wear a watch while doing this.
So you’ve slowly let your balls hang enjoying the wind. You’ve learned that rejection is something to not be feared. You have cleansed your emotional landscape.
You want to be the man that the world either wants to either be or be with.
Time to start dressing the part.
Girls will determine whether they want to talk to you based on your appearance. This is good for you since the majority of American guys dress like garbage.
Remember it is neither the clothes that make the man nor the man that makes the clothes.
Man and clothing are symbiotic.
Example of when a man makes good clothes look weak:
I’m not even going to bother dissecting this photograph. Just understand that this man has no respect for clothing and it shows.
Your job is simple. To examine your wardrobe and determine what may stay and what needs to go. This should not be painless for in reality if you stay away from the following items you will look better than the majority of guys.
1. No baseball hats outside of a game. Fitteds are alright since they’re fitted and those who wear fitteds take care of them. That means throw away that beat-ass Red Sox hat you’ve been wearing backwards since college.
2. No flip flops outside of a beach. Wear real shoes or fashion inspired sneakers.
3. Ditch cargo pants. Every guy on the East or West coast is rocking them.
4. No stripped shirts. I do not understand when this became the uniform for going out.
5. Invest in details girls notice, such as colored socks (never white) or ties and pocket squares.
It does not take much to look better as a man. The secret all comes down to fit and wearing what everyone else is not.
Example: Simple white T that fits you well, with jeans that have a good fit and are tapered, finished by engineer boots.
Now what most guys don’t understand is that if you buy quality it will last you a while and the money is worth it.
Are many surprised that I wear jeans that are more than $100 because I go selvedge or bust. Yes. Will these jeans survive 4 years and look better than bargain Walmart Lee’s. Definitely. Have females noticed. Obviously.
You do not need a huge wardrobe. You need a few essentials that will make you stand out.
Hell if you have the money start buying tailored suits. That is the most alpha uniform out there. Tailored, not ill fitting.
To determine if something fits you, look in the mirror. If it accentuates your natural form, superb. If it billows up, terrible. For those that have been wearing “loose” clothing for a while, clothes that are fitted may feel a bit tight. This is psychological.
If you’re fat, there’s no way to “hide it.” You’ll look fat, then buy things that are still relatively fitted but a little looser. More importantly treadmill status.
Here are a few websites to give you an idea. They’re top notch.
Yesterday you experienced rejection numerous times. It wasn’t that bad was it. Rejection is nothing but a few words and a look from a complete stranger who you do not know.
Never give strangers power over you. Today we will deal with something that many guys place too much value on. The ex.
If you never had a girlfriend or a girl that “broke your heart.” Consider yourself boss. Unless you never had a girlfriend because you are a fat slob. Then you need to work hard. Update those 300 pushups to 1000. Sweat.
Either way read this http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/nyc/589072628.html and come back tomorrow.
To those that have been “hurt” it is high time that you finally deal with this parasite that has been gnawing at your armor.
Today I want you to sit down and put pen to pad and write all the good times and the bad times. I want you to squeeze out every memory between you and her. Write it down. Record.
Then I want you to sit back, grab a beer, and think back to how pathetic you were in her presence. Yes I am judging you to have been pathetic. Otherwise you would have been over her.
Think of all the times you let your head rest on her shoulders. All the times you didn’t let her deal with her emotional tantrums on her own time, asking her “baby are you okay? can I get the Ben and Jerry’s for you.”
I need you to get rid of all the excess fat that was your relationship. So that when she does see your transformation you will not be tempted to let her back in.
Sex with her is fine. If she maintained her body. Relationship. Never again.
On to the next one.
Look deep into your emotional core and deplete it. Only then will you be able to continue unperturbed.
Today We will be entering the last leg of missions. In the beginning the missions were designed to get you out of your comfort zone and to realize the potential within you to be the bastion of gonadal fortitude.
Now it is time to realize that females are nothing to fear. Many guys have this deep insecurity that arises when they are in the presence of a female. This happens to some of the most powerful men in the world. They lose all their identity in the presence of breasts.
They supplicate and want to give gifts. The root of all this is fear of rejection.
Let us prove that rejection is no big deal. Now I can tell you to go forth and talk to a girl and then not worry that she rejects your advances.
No. We will kill the power of the rejection on your psyche.
Since today is Friday I want you to go forth into a social setting (bar if your over 21, mall or something) and locate the most attractive girl there.
Walk up to her and say the following:
“Hey, do me a favor and reject me.”
She will be confused, explain to her you want her to imagine that you hit on her and that she is rejecting your advances.
OMG. You’re talking to a female. Breath playa’.
She may be unamused and give you a half-assed “get away from me.”
I need you to be more forceful and ask her to be creative. Tell her to expunge all her rage on you.
When she does it to the point that you may feel odd inside, go forth and ask 4 more girls. Minimum of 5 rejections.
Take the power of rejection away and you no longer begin to fear it.
It will take a while for the consequences of rejection to mean nothing to you, however is the first step.
Alexander the Great is a great character of alphadom to study. Many would agree that his successes could simply be attributed to his belief that he was a conquerer.
He vehemently believed that he could conquer all and that the world could be subdued under his sword.
With this belief he took over the world.
There is another great story about Alexander that is not as popular. When he was dying he assembled is closest advisers and asked them for three last requests.
First he wanted doctors to carry his body in the funeral procession. Second, he wanted all the riches he accumulated to be laid out as a walkway for the funeral procession. Finally he asked that his arms hung at his sides during the procession.
He requested these three things to remind his soldiers and people of the three truths of life. Nothing can conquer death, not even medicine. You can not take anything with you when you die and it is pointless to chase riches. You come into this world with nothing and you leave this world with nothing. You can not carry anything with you.
Today I want you to keep the mindset of Alexander in your mind.
Sit down with pen and paper before you. Write of all your opportunities missed. Write of the moments which you passed for one reason or another. Write why did you pass them. Were you scared of doing something? Did your ex-girlfriend talk you out of it or made you do something else.
Remember what Alexander showed his people, death comes for us all and our material possessions will mean nothing. The only important facet of our lives is how we lived them. Have you been living?
After you have opened your eyes to the extent of living which you have forfeited begin to think of what kind of person you want to be.
Alexander wished to be a conqueror. He believed he was a conqueror. He lived as a conqueror. People felt his conqueror presence.
What do you wish to be. International playboy? Do you believe that you are one and have you been working towards attaining that title.
Take your time today to truly determine what you wish to become. No easy way out. You must start working towards that person. Everyday carry yourself as if you have already attained it.
Yesterday felt good didn’t it. Your aura making the masses move out of your way. The invisible hand of alpha clearing your path.
Today we seek to find inner peace.
The alpha-male has been given the rare gift of the “fuck it” attitude. While others worry about everything above and beneath the sun, the alpha-dog tends to look at life for what it is: a bitch that is always having puppies.
Things get bad, but they will get good. All good times will pass. Life doesn’t hate or love you, you are not a factor when it gets terrid or great, just happens.
There is no conspiracy against you. Stepping in dog feces will not bring money to your door.
The alpha looks at life simply for what it is: a challenge to his comfort.
If you drive I want you to get stuck in traffic.
If you live in a city I want you to take mass-transit during rush hour.
If neither of those options work for you, then place your self in a position that annoys you.
Once you find yourself in such an environment. Breath. Release all your anger. Boil until you find peace. Until you accept your fate.
You will only end up moving a foot in 13 minutes. People will push past you.
Once you accept such a fact you will begin to feel helpless to change your position. Good.
Accept your helplessness to make a difference in that moment and say to yourself “meh, fuck it.”
Welcome to zen.
Next time someone angers you, something annoys you, or things do not go your way. Remember this mission. Remember how no matter how much you bitched and moaned. How much you attempt to build indignant self-righteousness, there was nothing you can do.
Remember how when you realized that you were helpless and all your anger was used up, the calm that coated you.
From tomorrow on wear that coat of peacefulness. When people attempt to get a rise out of you, you are prepared. When life throws something wretched your way, you remember that all you must do is carry on and conquer.
Inner peace is the medicine to life’s ills.
Yes I understand that you will not attain it in one day. But you must attempt to find it from now on. There is nothing worse than an mind poisoned by irrational emotion. Clarity is a commodity.